When your loved one was living with addiction, drugs or alcohol were the most important thing.
After rehab, that changed—but maybe not in the way that you expected.
It’s normal to hope that your relationship will improve and that you will become a priority. The reality, however, is that your loved one’s number one focus will be on his or her recovery.
Intellectually, you may know it has to be that way. But after years of being hurt and having your feelings ignored, the truth may still sting.
Rehab truly does save lives. It can give your loved one the tools he or she needs to live a full and happy life without drugs or alcohol.
Here’s what it can’t do: Make everything perfect right away. (Although you should probably stop looking at Facebook if you think anyone has a perfect life ever.)
It will take time for you and your partner to settle into a new normal. Give yourselves breathing room.
Chances are, you participated in some family therapy while your loved one was in treatment. Hopefully, it helped you work through some issues and build a new foundation for your relationship.
But relationships are hard—for everyone. Don’t be afraid to seek out additional therapy once your loved one returns home.
Take Care of Yourself
You’ve spent so much time over the last few years endlessly worrying about your partner. You’re probably optimistic, but still concerned.
Just as your loved one is still working on his or her recovery, you should still be seeking out sources of support. Maybe that’s a traditional support group—or maybe it’s just a good friend who understands.
Don’t forget about fun. Do yoga if that works for you or go to an art exhibit. Read books again, even books that are not about addiction.
For so long, you were operating in crisis mode. It won’t happen overnight, but you will slowly begin to rebuild trust and, as you do, you can lessen your grip on the wheel just a bit.
After a while, you may just find you’re enjoying the ride.
Nationally Recognized Addiction Treatment in Denver
Addiction can take so much away from a person—and their family. Rehab offers the chance to get it all back—and maybe even more. We’d love to help your loved one discover his or her path to a healthy, fulfilling and rewarding life. Fill out our form or contact us today to learn more about the alcohol and drug rehabilitation programs at The Raleigh House.